“…once our eyes are opened, we can't pretend we don't know what to do. God, who weighs our hearts and keeps our souls, knows that we know, and holds us responsible to act.”
~Proverbs 24:12



Friday, October 15, 2010

Happy Tears

Up until today, I’ve somehow held it together each day while at the baby homes (in the car and at the hotel are other stories). Even the very first moment I saw them, I didn’t tear up despite the overflowing amount of emotion I had. I think, at that point, something inside me helped me hold it together as B and C were each brought into a room with us complete strangers. They were so scared—rightfully so—and cried those first few minutes. But today… I teared up right in front of the caregivers.


We started the day by seeing C. I think one of our favorite things that she does is when she is getting kisses, she will stretch her head back with a huge smile as if to say, “More kisses! More kisses!” making her neck irresistible to just that. She really seemed to love Papa’s kisses today. As he would go in for some smooches, C would lean in the rest of the way to get his kisses. It was absolutely adorable (and made me love Derek even more than I already did, which I didn’t think was possible).


This afternoon, as we were picking up C from her groupa, something told me to offer to show her caregivers pictures of B. Since they have always been at different baby homes, they would never have had a chance to see what her biological brother looks like. All of a sudden, three of them came out from a playroom and gathered around our tiny LCD screen on our camera, “Oo”-ing and “Ah”-ing over her precious brother. In excited Russian, they said, “I see the resemblance!” “He sticks his tongue out just like her!” “He’s such a good looking boy!”(which, of course, he IS!) and “They both resemble Derek!” They all expressed that they thought he would take more to Derek and she to me, which I can see. After all that excitement, they went back into the playroom and quickly returned with rolled up papers. They deftly took the band off the tube of papers and unrolled them. What we saw was what brought the tears to my eyes. They were bright finger-paintings that C had made. As they explained what they were and that they wanted us to have them, they were like proud aunts and “babushkas” handing off the future of this child to me and Derek. I was speechless and so unbelievably moved.


As if that wasn’t enough, they brought in a photo album with pictures of C throughout the months. Some of her lounging in a kiddie pool with her adorable little tongue sticking out. Some of her in the green grass with a garland of yellow flowers in her beautiful, dark hair. It was just so wonderful…

When we brought her to the playroom after all that excitement, all she really wanted was to snack on a biter cookie and be held. If at some point I wasn’t holding her tight enough, she would climb like a monkey farther up in my arms, so that her face was so close to mine. She started saying “mama….mamamamamama…” So, not really “Mama,” but heartwarming just the same.


It was a wonderful day with B too. When we picked him up, the chief pediatrician, who we met with just before meeting B, looked so surprised that he so easily walked to us, knowing how long it takes him to warm up to someone. On our way to the playroom, our translator told us that one of the caregivers was talking about how pleased he has acted ever since he met us. That was so meaningful to hear.

This morning and afternoon, he was ALL BOY! It amazes me how far we’ve all come since Monday. He is so comfortable and confident around us. It was nothing for him to get into my bag of goodies and toys and comb around for something fun.


He even checked out my journal, in which I’m chronicling my thoughts and feelings of our journey.


I think he was testing some boundaries with us today, which is so healthy and such a great sign especially with adoption. He would throw a ball down a hall off of the playroom and look at Papa, seeing if he would get it for him, which of course he did. When Papa would return, B's smile was from ear to ear! After getting even more confident, he would start to run down a hallway, pause, look back at Papa and me and wait for one of us to “catch” him. If he got too far, he would turn around, run at us with his arms outstretched and fall into our arms. It is unbelievable how much our time together has changed since that first day. It’s so amazing. B showed some interest in a rocking horse that is in the playroom. He wasn’t too sure about it though. Papa picked him up, placed him on the saddle and began to lightly rock. B never let go of Papa’s sweater though. He used it as his safety blanket, which is an amazing sign! He was completely full of giggles and laughter today. There’s no sound quite like it.

As wonderful of a day as this was (EVERY day with them is wonderful!), it also began to be difficult. Hearing that B acts so pleased after he gets to play with us and seeing how much C yearns to be held so close to us makes the fact that we have to leave them soon almost unbearable. Not only will it pain us to leave them, but I fear that it will hurt them as well. I’ve been praying that they will be comforted particularly during the time between our first and second trip. I’ve been praying that they won’t think that we are another set of parents that have abandoned them. I pray that they happily and eagerly await our return. Tomorrow will be another wonderful day of play and love with them, there is no doubt. But it will also be one of the most difficult days of our lives.



9 comments:

melissia said...

Delane and I are in full tears right now....We pray for comfort to come to all 4 of you. As we read your blogs we await the next, and we dont want the current one to end...We only wish we could be there beside you guys living every memory..LOVE YOU ALL (the Hunter family)

MR said...

What a sweet day and what sweet experiences for you! It is difficult to leave, but you find you come home with a resolve and determination like no other to get back to them! It is way easier said than done, I know!! Please rest assured though that they will be okay and the memories of that will soon be replaced with new memories of you as a family together here! We are here if you need us when you come home!
Mary Rae

K said...

They will be okay! They have such little memories, more than we give them credit for. They've got your pictures, and I'm sure thier caregivers will talk about you coming back. I know it will be hard. Soon it will all be over and they'll be home for good. :)

Sloane said...

I share your prayers. I'm also praying that you and Derek are covered with the peace of the Holy Spirit as you depart from your little ones. Safe travels home and know that you are admired and loved, Mama.

juliewebster01 said...

What an amazing day for all of you! My prayers will match yours, Kat. Their little hearts will be protected - of that I am sure. Thank you, Lord, for Kat's writing skills. What a blessing to all of us back home.

Brent said...

One of my best memories is the day we went back to see Alina aftering the first trip. She giggled and smiled at us...she remembered us!! At least that is what we believe. It is a great time. You and the kiddos will be ok.

Thank you for sharing and have a great trip home.

-Brent

Laurie said...

What a blessed day and week you have had! I can relate in a sort of way of how you are feeling about being away from them - it's never easy to be away from the ones you hold so dear to your heart. God has chosen them for you, and you for them and He will comfort all your hearts during the time you are apart. We love you and are praying for all of you....

Peggy said...

Oh, Kat. Just know that I'm praying that God will bond your and Derek's hearts to B's and C's that they will somehow know you are their forever family. We love you all so much and are so proud that you are going to give B and C a loving home. Our prayers continue to go to God's throne. I know He will be faithful to answer them! He's that kind of Father!

Amy said...

If home is where the heart is, it sounds like a part of B and C are already home. My prayers have been for all of you on this upcoming time of separation...a necessary step on the journey, but a painful one, nonetheless. We love you guys and can't wait until all four of you are finally home. You are all covered in prayer...

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