“…once our eyes are opened, we can't pretend we don't know what to do. God, who weighs our hearts and keeps our souls, knows that we know, and holds us responsible to act.”
~Proverbs 24:12



Showing posts with label Siblings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Siblings. Show all posts

Sunday, April 17, 2011

My New Favorite Thing

Since we've been home, it seems like I have a new favorite thing every few days—most of which have to do with my two adorable kiddos.



Smiles,




Hugs,



kisses,



funny faces, 



giggles,



snorts,


giggling snorts...


But my favorite as of late...? Bennett making Celia laugh. I've seen people make Celia giggle, and even I can get a good hearty laugh every once in a while, but NO ONE makes Celia belly-laugh like Bennett. No one. Sometimes all it takes is B looking at his sister with joy in his eyes from his car seat. Sometimes it's a cat and mouse game. Sometimes it's him peering over his crib playing peek-a-boo with his sister across the room. (Thank you Sloane for our video monitors!) Whatever it is, I can't even begin to explain what this sweet connection means to me. My late brother was my closest friend and I shared with him a relationship unlike any I've ever had. It literally brings tears to my eyes seeing that same connection between Bennett and Celia—brother and sister brought together just several months ago.






Friday, December 24, 2010

Happy Christmas Eve!

Our Christmas Eve started out rough. Our poor baby girl had a bad night. We were up with her for four hours as she cried and cried. I felt terrible that I couldn’t or just didn’t know how to ease her pain or unhappiness. So much for thinking that we bypassed the staying-up-all-night stage with a little one…
I’d say Derek and I got about two hours of sleep last night, which was not made better by the kiddos refusing to take a nap at the same time. Add into that the fact that our bodies have had to adjust to completely different time zones three times in the last three weeks. I mention all this so that I will not be judged by the photos I’m about to post.

Despite the tiredness, this has been the best Christmas Eve ever. As I look at the sleeping (at the moment) miracles in the cribs next to me, I’m reminded of the miracle that took place on Christmas centuries ago. I am and will forever be completely thankful for God’s amazing miracles.

Due to exhaustion and the fact that poor C has been up crying three times already since we put her to bed two and a half hours ago, I’m going to summarize the day through pictures:


It wasn’t all bad for sweet Celia today


B likes his stroller. …and—we’ve learned—sucking his thumb

Mommy surprised the kids with their first Christmas tree!


But I think the kiddos liked the many felt ornaments and the container that held them all better.



We decorated our tree




Ta-da! Thank you to everyone who helped make ornaments for our tree!




Brother and sister started playing together…



Finally, Papa told the Christmas story with the help of B and C’s first Christmas presents. They were a hit!



 

Merry Christmas everyone!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Things I've Already Learned

Things I’ve learned parenting young adopted biological siblings:


  • As much as I wish I could, I can’t differentiate between their cries… yet. Are you hungry? Thirsty? Sick?

  • I can’t imagine loving any individuals more if they had come into our family any other way. What a story we have! “Jesus loved you so much, He brought your parents halfway across the world to bring you together and bring you home.”

  • Girl poop is much less messy than boy poop.

  • It’s very hard to get a one-year-old to drink when she doesn’t use a bottle and doesn’t understand the sucking needed for a sippy cup. I’m worried she’s not getting enough fluids… but we’re still going through diapers. Hopefully one of us will catch on soon.

  • Laying down face-to-face with my son and having him fall asleep looking into my eyes and grasping the charms on my necklace is heaven. Pure heaven.

  • As difficult as it may make juggling things, I secretly love the fact that when my baby girl is sick, nothing but Mommy will do.

  • Disciplining a child who has never felt the love of a mother or father, or who has never had any material thing completely belong to him is difficult.

  • Hearing our boy say “Mama” and run to me melts my heart.

  • …so does seeing how much his face lights up when his Papa returns from doing one of several hundred things that he seems to be taking care of.

  • Parenting makes me love my husband even more.

  • Doubting yourself and your parenting skills in these early stages is not helpful, though it's hard not to do so.

  • It is nearly impossible to get a good meal with young kiddos who are desperately drinking up the one-on-one attention they are finally getting—and so deserve. I honestly think B and C have ate more today than either of their parents.

  • Baby Einstein “Praise Baby Lullaby” is one of the best DVDs ever. If it were up to me, it would have won an Academy Award. Or, at least a super-duper Mommy award!

  • This is as hard as I expected. Possibly more…?

Parenthood is definitely setting in. It’s tough! But more rewarding than nearly anything I’ve ever done.

C is sick. She has some bug causing her to be congested and I believe she is also teething what must be a monster of a tooth, considering how uncomfortable she is. We have the proper medications. I just wish they would work faster—and longer! (sweet thing didn’t get much of a nap today since she was in pain).


Derek took B out to pick up lunch while I held and walked with C. Derek reported that Bennett did pretty well! He didn’t say much, as he’s not a fan of strangers—or, “dya-dya” in Russian. After they had a bite to eat, it was time to play some more. Today Bennett gave one of his stacking cups to his sister. We’re making strides!

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve. I plan on putting up our “tree” and have the kids decorate. I plan to post pictures—especiallysince some of you helped make the ornaments! We have small gifts for the kiddos to open on Christmas. Three a piece—just like Jesus.
Well, Derek just got back with dinner for us. He has quite the story to tell about his journey out tonight! But I’ll let him share it later. Hee hee…

I think we lucked out last night with the kids each getting 11 hours of sleep. Poor C has been up twice already and it's only 9 p.m.

Good night friends.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

"Indescribable"

It’s “Gotcha Day!”

We began by stopping off at a Russian supermarket to buy diapers, wipes, food, juice and other items. My stomach was in knots as we made our way down the snowy roads to our baby girl’s orphanage.


As we walked up the slippery path to the main door, I paused, turned to my amazing husband and gave him a kiss. “Are you ready to be a mom?” he asked? “Yes,” I replied without even thinking about it. “Are you ready to be a dad?” “Absolutely.”

When we got up to the third floor and saw our baby girl everything seemed to happen so fast. The caregivers, who were teary-eyed at her leaving already, had dressed C in a beautiful burgundy dress with a huge white bow. It means so much to us that they care for her as much as they do.


I quickly changed C into her outfit, which we brought from home. Derek went back to her group’s room and snapped pictures so that down the road she can see where she spent the first year of her life. We left out gifts with the caregivers and they gave us some last pieces of advice: “She loves bread,” “She’s used to being spoiled,” “She’s a very smart girl,” and well wishes: “We wish you a full and happy life,” “take good care of her!” As we were heading out, the caregivers stopped us and gave us a chocolate bar and wished us “Happy New Year.” We bundled here up and we were off to get her brother!



Celia fell asleep on the car ride to B’s home.





The three of us (plus our driver/translator—have I mentioned how AWESOME he is?!) got out of the car and trekked through the snow to B’s orphanage. We stopped at the director’s office and she suggested that C not g up to B’s group because she might get sick. Derek stayed in Dr. G’s office (the baby home directors are also pediatricians) with C while I went up to get B. After he was changed into the clothes we brought him—and I was chided for not dressing him in tights—our translator took some pictures of his group’s room, we handed out gifts and said our goodbyes and we went to join the rest of the family!



Our driver opened the door to Dr. G’s office and in B and I went. I swear, C’s face lit up the second we walked through. Bennett and Celia… Alim and Nargiza… brother and sister were united at last! Celia was simply enamored with her biological brother—which truly touched my heart, because I was always so enamored with my late brother, Trevor. Bennett on the other hand must have been thinking, “Who are you and why is my Papa holding you?” Ah! I can’t wait to see how their relationship blossoms. There is something truly special about a brother/sister bond—especially one with a backstory like this one.





Before we left, Dr. G insisted we feed them a small lunch. Celia was all about it. Bennett was nervous and it took him a few minutes to come around. Soon enough we were off to head back to our hotel! The drive took a bit longer than expected due to traffic and both of our kiddos got a 45 minute nap.






When we got “home” to our hotel, we played and played and played. Bennett was into EVERTHING! We will DEFINITELY have our hands full with this two-year-old boy! We took several walks around our hotel floor and looked out windows. It still amazes me that they are seeing SO much for the first time. First boat, first line of traffic, first view of the world from 6-flights up… Bennett was looking at his photo book and saw a picture of me, pointed, and said “Mama.” He then flipped to the picture of Derek and said, “Papa.” Papa and I both teared up. B was so quiet at every visit up until this point. Now he just talks and talks! I guess his caregiver was right, aybe he was just saving all of his gab for us!

We were able to get onto Skype and talk to all the grandparents at one time. (They all met at a McDonald’s while Derek’s mom was on a work break.) There were tears all around.

After the call, we fed them dinner (I sure hope we’re feeding them enough. For an inexperienced parent, it’s hard to tell). In a word, it was MESSY! We’re still trying to figure out the best way to get them to drink. They are used to drinking out of small tea cups. Hopefully either they’ll catch on to the sippy cup or we’ll learn how to help them pour the drink into their mouths. Then it was bath time. B LOVED his bath and could have played in there for hours! C… not so much. The poor thing cried and cried. We made it through though!

After a short visit from our in-country coordinator, we got ready for bed. Derek read them part of a “Soviet” folk tale as we rocked each of our adorable and cuddly little ones. Then I popped in the “Praise Baby Lullaby” Baby Einstein DVD that a dear friend gave us. B was entranced! C enjoyed it as well. The first song that played was “Indescribable.” Listening to the words, rocking with OUR babies in our arms at last, brought tears to Derek and my eyes. I don’t think we’ll be able to hear that song again without thinking of the indescribable miracle God granted us. God loved B and C so much that he had their parents fly more than half-way across the world (three times!) just to get them. And God loves us so much that he brought us all together in the most PERFECT way.


And then, we put them to bed.






Dear friends, I say goodnight to you as a mother who feels blessed infinitely more than I deserve. I have two beautiful, smart and lovable miracles to call my own. I truly don't feel like I know what I'm doing, but--for the first time in a long time--I like that feeling. God has had his hands in this for years and years. He's got us this far, and I can't wait to see where he takes us now! We are all in the best of hands! I'm SO GRATEFUL!

Thursday, December 9, 2010

It’s Official! I’m a Mommy!

Just after 12:30 St. Petersburg time today, Thursday, December 09, 2010, a Russian judge formally approved our petition to be parents to Bennett Alim Trevor and Celia Rose Nargiza. With nine other people in the cramped, hot courtroom, Derek and I began a new chapter in our lives. One we have been waiting for for quite some time, and one that could only begin with the two children God preordained to be ours—our “B” an “C.”

Without further ado—and because it’s been a very long and very emotional day, and we have a flight to catch early tomorrow morning as long as the snow doesn’t get in the way—I’m going to cut this post short and introduce the world to our two little blessings.

Introducing the strong-willed and completely lovable Bennett Alim:



…and introducing the very popular and totally smooch-able Celia Rose:



PLEASE NOTE: I do not plan on posting photos of our babies on facebook until we are safely home.

As the judge was reading her verdict, I lost it and began to cry tears of joy immediately after I heard the judge say (via our translator), “I grant your petition…” I didn’t even pay attention to the rest! Good thing Derek kept his wits about him. He informed me as we left the courtroom that we are able to pick up our children as early as the 21st—Celia’s first birthday! Hooray! If all goes according to plan—which our agency representatives here in Russia believe that its should—we will be able to have all paperwork ready by the evening of the 21st, pick each of them up from their baby home on the 22nd (the day brother and sister will meet for the very first time!), and make it home by the evening of the 31st! We should begin the new year with our babies safely home!

Thank you all for your prayers and well-wishes. I feel I’m getting greedy, but if you think of it, pray for our travels home. Currently St. Petersburg is getting a lot—and I mean A LOT—of snow, and flights at our first layover destination have been canceled and postponed for the last day or so… There is so much yet to do at home and I am anxiously hoping and praying to make it back to get things accomplished this weekend.

LOVE YOU ALL!!!

WHAT AN AMAZING DAY!!!

Saturday, June 26, 2010

I like to read mechanic magazines.

False.

I have a good appetite.
True!

My hands and feet are usually warm enough.
Umm... sure. Yeah. True.

It would be better if almost all laws were thrown away.
Odd... False.

Evil spirit pocess me at times.
Eek! False.

These are just five statements included in a 560+ true/false statement psychological test which Derek and I had to take for our adoption. No, I'm not kidding.

The Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory (MMPI) was interesting, to say the least. The MMPI is one of the most frequently used psychological exams gauging mental illness. I am happy to report that both Derek and I passed (not sure about the flying colors part. LOL!). A certified psychologist found us sane enough to parent children. If only every parent-to-be had to pass this test, huh?

We each drove about about an hour south in early March to take the MMPI. It was worth the long drive, since the psychologist we used--recommended to us by my brother-in-law (sheriff's detective) who has worked with him on several cases--charged us at least $500 less than what our placement agency told us to expect. What a kind and professional man! 

A favorable MMPI letter of results is required by our placement agency and most likely the Russian court before we can adopt our children. It will be included in our dossier, a LARGE collection of documents required by Russia. As bizarre as some of the MMPI statements were, we're glad to do what it takes to take us even one step closer to our kiddos!

And yes, I've been using plurals, haven't I? It's hardly a secret anymore that Derek and I are planning to adopt biological siblings. Of course, nothing is official and so much can happen between now and then, but God truly placed on our heart that there are siblings out there, now, at this very moment, waiting for us to bring them home.

I wish I could share more...

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